I’ve probably had at least 20 dates this year, and at one point, 6 of them were still possibilities. Over time, things sorted themselves out, and only a couple are still in my life, but there would have been no way I could have pointed to one in a month and said “him.” If I had done that, I probably wouldn’t have picked the ones who are still in my life, because various events unfolded over time to make them rise above the others (not the least of which that they were doing the same thing, and I had to rise to the top of their lists too). If you’re not “dating,” but ending up in relationships with specific people in your life, it’s different. You may fall in love with the next door neighbor, or your coworker, or the person who enters your life in a random way, but you’re with that person because you’ve developed a connection with that specific person. When that happens, it’s easier to make a decision to be exclusive (whether sexual or dating — I think the distinction is silly, because you’re not going to shut down a date just when it starts to get sexual — either don’t go on it, or go on it without restrictions) because you’re probably exclusive already, or at least have singled out that person for a reason anyway. That’s why I think there’s a different rulebook and exclusivity is a bigger deal, depending on whether you both go into it from a place of dating a bunch of people, having uncommitted sex early on to test compatibility, and choosing one person from a bunch, vs. mutually falling for one person at a time (which was probably building over a period of time as you got to know each other before you were dating — otherwise, after a month, it hasn’t had time to develop beyond a surface crush/infatuation). https://hedgedoc.info.uqam.ca/s/whSKegdka https://md.darmstadt.ccc.de/s/p_lJ54-RO_ https://hedgedoc.digillab.uni-augsburg.de/s/yVmsFiZ0n https://codimd.infn.it/s/YhaNrMRp7 https://solar.itu.dk/pad/s/c0rPyKzJJ https://ssnote.skku.edu/s/QJr_IZhfY https://pad.societenumerique.gouv.fr/s/uhe13odI6 https://pad.funkwhale.audio/s/PDl0Ml0da https://text.dsf.hs-heilbronn.de/s/7ic_1T378 https://hedgedoc.ucc.asn.au/s/MQzJxgVPp https://hedgedoc.envs.net/s/6OetRl3Qa https://note.apps.devcloud.ici.ro/s/G57mctEjB https://doc.adminforge.de/s/5EIRagO1di https://hedge.grin.hu/s/vd1HxJ89D